Without doubt, the beginning of a blissful marriage is obedience to God from the start. Unfortunately, many Christians disobey God in the choice of a life partner and so start their marriage on a faulty foundation. Those who have disobeyed God by refusing to heed the scriptural injunction not to be unequally yoked together with unbelievers (2 Corinthians 6:14) have often had sorry tales to tell. As the Bible states, “Can two walk together, unless they are agreed?” (Amos 3:3)
The truth is, you cannot marry someone who does not share the same values and beliefs with you and expect him to play by your rules—the rules of the Bible. But if you have already made that mistake, do not give up; there is still hope. You can ask God for mercy and receive the grace to relate appropriately with your spouse and provide the needed leadership in the home. Much more, you can ask God to touch his or her heart so that he or she will come to the same side with you.
Remember, leadership in marriage comprises two people – the man and the woman. On a broader scale, however, it comprises the whole family because even the children have a role to play in this leadership setting. Part of their role will include helping their parents to function effectively by submitting to their authority. In some African settings, older children are delegated some responsibilities over their younger ones. In that regard, the leadership in the home is broad based; it involves everybody.
Is it wise for couples to live apart due to their career demands and postings?
Answer:
The answer here is an emphatic “NO”. However, in today's world, the need to meet financial obligations has led to many couples living thousands of miles apart.
My wife's early pregnancy symptom is to become quarrelsome, sometimes to the point of physical fight. Is there anything I can do to resolve this?
Answer:
Since you know the reason for her behaviour, the issue should be easier to resolve. Pregnancy blues vary from one woman to another. Some are fortunate to have a stress-free pregnancy throughout the term, while some have it tough at the beginning. Others go through problems throughout the entire term of the pregnancy.
