I live with a man to whom I am not officially married and also have children for him. I desire to end the relationship but he will not let me go with the children. This always causes a fight between us and I am so unhappy. What can I do?

Answer:   
You took the wrong step by choosing to live with a man to whom you are not married and as it is often the case in this type of relationship, you have become insecure, hence your agitation for making the arrangement legal. However, and understandably so, your 'man' does not see the need to change the situation. He might even want to ask, “What difference does a piece of paper make since you are already living as man and wife?” Moreover, this type of arrangement affords the man the 'right' to shy away from his responsibilities. Besides, it appears your 'man' is also using the children as pawns to keep you from leaving.

Unfortunately, the truth about your situation is that you cannot right this wrong by employing coercive force. You therefore need to decide between leaving things the way they are or temporarily separating until the man is ready to do things right. If you choose the latter option, you would need to make a lot of sacrifices (which may include leaving your children behind), exercise a lot of faith and patience and be ready to move on without the man if he refuses to budge!

Whatever decision you take however, be sure to prayerfully seek the help of the Holy Spirit for help and direction.